An incident happened over the weekend with a large white male almost assaulting a black female. I’m really not concerned about what the altercation was about and I’m sorry if you feel I should because I honestly, am not.
I don’t think people understand how tiring it is to be young, black and female in our country. This is majority of the reason why I am not bothered by the reason of the altercation. It all just felt a little too familiar.
We have a long history of race that’s probably going to take a few generations to either erase or neutralise, if ever. There is a stigma around black people and wealth, black people in the workplace and black people in general. It take 3 times the amount of work just to be equal to your white counterpart. 3 times the effort! Just because of the colour of my skin. Any suspect in a criminal case is more likely (read always) a black person. The media will refer to a black rapist as what he is – a rapist but, they will refer to a white rapist as – “A father of 2”, “A gentleman” etc. I could go on about race, but I think we all know we have a long way to go.
Now to be a woman..
The rape stats have quadrupled over the years. Domestic violence hiked up just as much. The crimes committed over the last 10 years have been more on women then men. Boards of directors are 90% male, lets not even go down to management because the fish rots from the top. There is female representation and it is growing but clearly not enough because the scales are always tipped towards males. While males. Largely so. Especially in fields where representation is needed most. Salaries are not equal between a white male and black male. Can you imagine how worse off a black female is? The salary scale goes down as follow;
So if you have to work 3 times as hard to be equal to your white counterpart, how much harder do you have to work if you’re black AND female?
There are industries women are not recognised in because they’re seen as the inferior gender. Black is seen as inferior to begin with, how deeper is the inferiority when you’re black and female?
Now to be young..
There’s a general misconception that being young comes with being reckless. Typical millennials, they say. That we don’t know enough. That in order to be really good at something, you ought to have been doing it for years. Funders will trust a 50 year old CEO over a 25 year old CEO on any given Sunday. I could go on but I’d rather not, you know what they say about us.
Now imagine what daily living is like when you’re black, when you’re female and when you’re young?
*Cues Kendrick Lamar for ambiance* – “All my life I had to fight..”
The general message being passed is that young black women aren’t smart enough, shouldn’t be recognised or rewarded enough, are vulnerable enough and should at all costs be violated. Whether physically, emotionally or financially.
So excuse me if I don’t care why the altercation took place. That woman is tired. Even if she was wrong (which she wasn’t), I’ll give her a free pass.